Here we go again...some one from public media oversteps their constitutional right to say what ever the heck they choose and they chose to offend someone. In this case they offended an ethnic group ( I suppose).
Dr Laura Schlessinger a radio psychologist used the "N" word 11 times when trying to counsel a black female caller who is married to a white man. The good Dr. had to cut her show short an apologize because she realized the when the caller became even more upset that maybe her choice of "word" to illustrate a point was probably not the best option. The Dr was trying to convey to the caller that when the "N" word is used within the black community it is sometimes used as a term of endearment. Although there is truth to that line of thought it doesn't apply in this case of her interracial marriage. Now come on... 11 times ...sheesh almost sounds like the good Dr had some pent up frustrations herself and the word got so good to her she had to just let it spill freely from her lips ( she's thinking ..them durn N's...blasting that noise through my street at 2am).-lol Dr. wanted the caller to get a tougher skin since she chose to be in this type of relationship.The Dr should have simply told her that her hubby doesn't respect black folks so she may have a bigger issue in her marriage. Just a tip girlfriend...get out of this marriage!!!
When one considers the good doctor is 63 she was brought up during the civil rights era...during the time when words referring to black folks changed conotations a couple times. I'm amazed she is as liberal as she is. Negro came out latin/spanish word for black. Scientific word for black people is Negroid. Word went through several changes to describe folks of African descent... Negro, Negra, Collored, Black (60's & 70's), African Americans and when they get on the nerves the "N" word. Colored was possibly the best description because the hue of black is made up of several colors.
I wish everyone would stop using the word. Why use as word that became a derogatory word as a "term of endearment"? Why confuse folks? Black folks don't like other ethnic groups using the word but they use it all the time ( yo my Nigga...wuz up?). Nigga actually means an ignorant person so the word can apply to any ethnic group, male or female. The mere fact that is was chosen to be specifically used for black people shows it should not be used at all. Same applies for the now to common use of the word "bitch". Women complain about men calling them out of their names ( in music) but they call their girls ...the "B" all the time especially when they get to drinking. If any of my girls calls me "B" their getting punched out. The N word and B word are both words of disrespect. Respect yourself and don't use it or tolerate it.
Friday, August 13, 2010
Thursday, August 5, 2010
Cougar of Kitten...it's your fault but it's okay.
Had a brief conversation with my daughter the other day she happened to mention
a man she just met who she believes we have much in common.She is 27 he is 42.
She suggested to the guy that he meet me...he laughed.
My brother married last year...she is real "kewl people". She was 26 he was 47
at the time. My brothers daughter from a previous relationship is 24. Brother dear
is like the absent minded professor. He can remember complicated formulas but
can't recall where he put his keys 5 minutes ago or if he locked the front door.
He is a physicist...helped build some Atom Blaster thingy in Geneva. I guess the
big head 4got his age but the little head remembered her age,
I met a nice 'ole boy" on the train a few weeks ago. He is 66. Very social and
outgoing. Apparently there was a standing joke on the train among some of the
passengers cause every time folks would walk by us when were were talking they
would say to him.."High 5" . Me being the curious kitty that I am had to make
inquires about this action. A wonderfully delightful retired couple that was
doing the United States cross country by rail ( what ever floats your boat) sat near me in
the lounge car so I broached the subject to them. They explained that 'old boy
had been married 4 times and was looking for wife number 5 so since his obvious
attraction towards me everyone was High 5'in him assuming I might be the next
wifey. (quiet as it's kept 'ole boy lost me when he mentioned he he doesn't fly
anymore. Not in 12 yrs.) I need a man that has a passion for travel and not just
by rail which limits one to just the United States. Plus one other little thing
put him out of my mind when he mentioned prenuptial agreement for his next marriage. N E X
T!!!
Now look...I'm a thoroughly Modern Milly. I put little restrictions or rules on little these days ( thus the joy's of being 30somthing). I have only one rule regarding age and that is "Jr" has to be older than my daughter. I have no
objections to May/December relationships. If 2 people have many common interest
and make each other smile ( and not just the younger person smiling at the
prospect of financial gain) then go for it.
At first I resented the label Cougar but when one considers being referred to
as a Cougar aka Puma, or Panther ( I like the latter...I see myself walking the
catwalk like Halle Berry did in all that leather and boots in Cat Women...very
empowering!) Movie bombed but her outfit was a hit. Besides diamond nails like hers would mean
less trips to the salon. Wikipedia defines the characteristics of a cougar as "a
capable stalk and ambush predator...pursues a wide variety of
prey...territorial" This doesn't sound too bad to me...sounds like one bad mamma
jamma to me. Someone in charge and aware and less likely to be manipulated.
Consider the alternative; "Dog" we have been labeling men that for years. Now
lets see...how do we describe most dogs....easily led, they are loyal to who
ever feeds them and they poop where they sleep...sound like anyone you know?
hmmmm...
The reality of the situation is this...men in their 40's start having their mid
life crisis(we get hot flashes they start acquiring hot flashy things)...they buy sports cars or motor cycles, get hair plugs and start hunting for 20 something "sex kittens". During their period the 40 something
male and the 20 something female are finally equal in mentality. The women in my age
group are left to chill and relax with the 'old boys who when you mention going
out they say..." I've done all that hang'n out when I was younger...there's
nothing out there now...let's just stay in and watch a movie. What's up with
that ? I don't see the logic in that mindset... just because you used to go to
concerts, art galleries, jazz festivals, fine restaurants does that mean each
repeated( which in itself is not repeated cause time can not be repeated...last
years Kem concert will never be the same as this years Kem concert) experience
won't be a "new experience"? Besides if you were not with me at that time those
experiences don't count. But you can sit and watch goo-gobs of March Madness ball
and enjoy each game as if it's the first time you ever saw them play... BORING..
to me anyway...for some women they like to chill. The flip side to the 'ole boy being the
under age 35 guys,,,yummy but not always ready for what your ready for or to ready for other things. There
are 2 questions I always get out of the way when I meet a "Jr". 1) A .Do you have
kids ? B. Do you want more? If he doesn't have any....NEXT....don't want to run
the risk of us getting close then he regrets not having children. If he wants
more...NEXT...I want nothing in my life that restricts my hopping on a plane or leaving when I want to disappear for a weekend. This is why I don't have a
dog...gotta find someone to take care of them in your absence...see a cat will
take care of itself if I go away. Oh I did say I ask 2 questions but ahhhh can't
discuss that one at this time.
I'm caught in a conundrum...I'm either gingerly lifting a man who has one foot
in a cradle or grabbing a man with one foot in the grave. "Jr" provides action,
adventure and stamina while I enjoy "Pops" for stimulating conversation,
security and that wise inner strength that only an older man can provide. Now at some point the 40 something man becomes available again ( usually w/in 1-5 yrs from breakdown) problem is by this time the 20 something chicky has left him bitter, distrustful and in many cases financially strapped. Until I
can find 1 man who is age appropriate (whatever that is), exciting,witty,
imaginative, mentally and emotionally stable I will just keep on hand my pampers
and my depends. Always ready to land on my feet. MEOWWW...
a man she just met who she believes we have much in common.She is 27 he is 42.
She suggested to the guy that he meet me...he laughed.
My brother married last year...she is real "kewl people". She was 26 he was 47
at the time. My brothers daughter from a previous relationship is 24. Brother dear
is like the absent minded professor. He can remember complicated formulas but
can't recall where he put his keys 5 minutes ago or if he locked the front door.
He is a physicist...helped build some Atom Blaster thingy in Geneva. I guess the
big head 4got his age but the little head remembered her age,
I met a nice 'ole boy" on the train a few weeks ago. He is 66. Very social and
outgoing. Apparently there was a standing joke on the train among some of the
passengers cause every time folks would walk by us when were were talking they
would say to him.."High 5" . Me being the curious kitty that I am had to make
inquires about this action. A wonderfully delightful retired couple that was
doing the United States cross country by rail ( what ever floats your boat) sat near me in
the lounge car so I broached the subject to them. They explained that 'old boy
had been married 4 times and was looking for wife number 5 so since his obvious
attraction towards me everyone was High 5'in him assuming I might be the next
wifey. (quiet as it's kept 'ole boy lost me when he mentioned he he doesn't fly
anymore. Not in 12 yrs.) I need a man that has a passion for travel and not just
by rail which limits one to just the United States. Plus one other little thing
put him out of my mind when he mentioned prenuptial agreement for his next marriage. N E X
T!!!
Now look...I'm a thoroughly Modern Milly. I put little restrictions or rules on little these days ( thus the joy's of being 30somthing). I have only one rule regarding age and that is "Jr" has to be older than my daughter. I have no
objections to May/December relationships. If 2 people have many common interest
and make each other smile ( and not just the younger person smiling at the
prospect of financial gain) then go for it.
At first I resented the label Cougar but when one considers being referred to
as a Cougar aka Puma, or Panther ( I like the latter...I see myself walking the
catwalk like Halle Berry did in all that leather and boots in Cat Women...very
empowering!) Movie bombed but her outfit was a hit. Besides diamond nails like hers would mean
less trips to the salon. Wikipedia defines the characteristics of a cougar as "a
capable stalk and ambush predator...pursues a wide variety of
prey...territorial" This doesn't sound too bad to me...sounds like one bad mamma
jamma to me. Someone in charge and aware and less likely to be manipulated.
Consider the alternative; "Dog" we have been labeling men that for years. Now
lets see...how do we describe most dogs....easily led, they are loyal to who
ever feeds them and they poop where they sleep...sound like anyone you know?
hmmmm...
The reality of the situation is this...men in their 40's start having their mid
life crisis(we get hot flashes they start acquiring hot flashy things)...they buy sports cars or motor cycles, get hair plugs and start hunting for 20 something "sex kittens". During their period the 40 something
male and the 20 something female are finally equal in mentality. The women in my age
group are left to chill and relax with the 'old boys who when you mention going
out they say..." I've done all that hang'n out when I was younger...there's
nothing out there now...let's just stay in and watch a movie. What's up with
that ? I don't see the logic in that mindset... just because you used to go to
concerts, art galleries, jazz festivals, fine restaurants does that mean each
repeated( which in itself is not repeated cause time can not be repeated...last
years Kem concert will never be the same as this years Kem concert) experience
won't be a "new experience"? Besides if you were not with me at that time those
experiences don't count. But you can sit and watch goo-gobs of March Madness ball
and enjoy each game as if it's the first time you ever saw them play... BORING..
to me anyway...for some women they like to chill. The flip side to the 'ole boy being the
under age 35 guys,,,yummy but not always ready for what your ready for or to ready for other things. There
are 2 questions I always get out of the way when I meet a "Jr". 1) A .Do you have
kids ? B. Do you want more? If he doesn't have any....NEXT....don't want to run
the risk of us getting close then he regrets not having children. If he wants
more...NEXT...I want nothing in my life that restricts my hopping on a plane or leaving when I want to disappear for a weekend. This is why I don't have a
dog...gotta find someone to take care of them in your absence...see a cat will
take care of itself if I go away. Oh I did say I ask 2 questions but ahhhh can't
discuss that one at this time
I'm caught in a conundrum...I'm either gingerly lifting a man who has one foot
in a cradle or grabbing a man with one foot in the grave. "Jr" provides action,
adventure and stamina while I enjoy "Pops" for stimulating conversation,
security and that wise inner strength that only an older man can provide. Now at some point the 40 something man becomes available again ( usually w/in 1-5 yrs from breakdown) problem is by this time the 20 something chicky has left him bitter, distrustful and in many cases financially strapped. Until I
can find 1 man who is age appropriate (whatever that is), exciting,witty,
imaginative, mentally and emotionally stable I will just keep on hand my pampers
and my depends. Always ready to land on my feet. MEOWWW...
Monday, August 2, 2010
The skinny behind the sum'thin...
Already clarified the advancing to not advance in years when I discussed "30 Something", now to deal with the other part of the title ..."the sum'thin". No real mystery here just an endless journey, circle, quest...I don't know can't catorgorize it as a path or destinaition cause the would infer that there is an end. I'm not sure there is an end in my case...
The Sum refers to the mass of muscle, ligaments, skeletal, plasma, epidermis and let's just deal with the elephant in the room ( pun intended) fat that make up ME! The " thin" refers to the destination, path or end if you will that I have been trying to arrive at for the past 20 yrs. I have tried every fad diet imaginable even those that are just to illogical to work such as the lemonade and syrup diet. I should have known this one would not work because I became to excited when I read about it and started buying the ingredients. Lemons and syrup...hmmm...let's see my vice is the consumption of sugar...carbs...sweets stuff!!! Sugar make me crave more sugar of any kind. Needless to say I didn't lose a thing from that diet which uses sugar/syrup. I've tried the Cambridge , Dick Gregory , Herbal Life, 7 day grapefruit, 7 day cabbage ( I could have powered a car on this one), South Beach, Adkins,Weight Watchers ( just watched my frustration grow cause at the time one had to weigh everything ...b4 the point system). Tried the powders, liquids, pills ( even ones named after Bee's), shots. Funny thing about the appetite suppressants is the thought that people who are over weight are always hungry...not true in my case...more like greedy. I didn't eat all day just that one item I ate which could be a box of Krispy Creme doughnuts ( hey a box counts as one item,
I go to the gym, lost 75 lbs last year did pretty good combining everything I learned from the past several fad diets. Problem... once I stop the 3 times a day regiment , once I go out for drinks with the friends, BBQ during the summer, consuming beautiful summer fruits...it slowly creeps back...not all but just enough to annoy. I can never move on to the next phase for back tracking to get the last 5 or 10 pounds I just put back on after every weekend...Arghhhhhhhhhhh!!!
I try not to fall prey to the conspiracy theorist but durn it the Government, food manufacturers ,doctors, even television show host are all in on it. That's right I said it...THEY don't want you to lose weight. Think about it if everybody became weight conscious what would those Keebler elves do, the Kool Aide guy would have no building to crush through. The shows like Dr Oz and Fit Club would have no guest. Why is it that every guest on many shows that come on saying they have lost a mountain of weight when asked how they did it they give you a blanket answer...will power, hard work and exercise and they give you 1 or 2 recipes but no R E A L answer or regimen. The Government let's products that take away your appetite stay on the market when research has already proved that eating more often promotes weight loss not losing your desire to eat. Have you noticed that diet food cost more than regular food? I don't get it...you get only enough food to feed a toddler, no flavor but it cost more. I guess your paying for the ascetically beautiful color illustrations on the box. Ohhhh soooo pretttyyy... Kind of like how I don't get that organic food is food that uses no pesticides, injected dyes, chemicals which would suggest there is less work put into this food but it cost twice as much as food that is filled with stuff that's suppose to kill ya. But that's another subject right there.
In a nut shell the Sum of my mass is always changing , subtracting, adding trying to reach that "Thin".
The Sum refers to the mass of muscle, ligaments, skeletal, plasma, epidermis and let's just deal with the elephant in the room ( pun intended) fat that make up ME! The " thin" refers to the destination, path or end if you will that I have been trying to arrive at for the past 20 yrs. I have tried every fad diet imaginable even those that are just to illogical to work such as the lemonade and syrup diet. I should have known this one would not work because I became to excited when I read about it and started buying the ingredients. Lemons and syrup...hmmm...let's see my vice is the consumption of sugar...carbs...sweets stuff!!! Sugar make me crave more sugar of any kind. Needless to say I didn't lose a thing from that diet which uses sugar/syrup. I've tried the Cambridge , Dick Gregory , Herbal Life, 7 day grapefruit, 7 day cabbage ( I could have powered a car on this one), South Beach, Adkins,Weight Watchers ( just watched my frustration grow cause at the time one had to weigh everything ...b4 the point system). Tried the powders, liquids, pills ( even ones named after Bee's), shots. Funny thing about the appetite suppressants is the thought that people who are over weight are always hungry...not true in my case...more like greedy. I didn't eat all day just that one item I ate which could be a box of Krispy Creme doughnuts ( hey a box counts as one item,
I go to the gym, lost 75 lbs last year did pretty good combining everything I learned from the past several fad diets. Problem... once I stop the 3 times a day regiment , once I go out for drinks with the friends, BBQ during the summer, consuming beautiful summer fruits...it slowly creeps back...not all but just enough to annoy. I can never move on to the next phase for back tracking to get the last 5 or 10 pounds I just put back on after every weekend...Arghhhhhhhhhhh!!!
I try not to fall prey to the conspiracy theorist but durn it the Government, food manufacturers ,doctors, even television show host are all in on it. That's right I said it...THEY don't want you to lose weight. Think about it if everybody became weight conscious what would those Keebler elves do, the Kool Aide guy would have no building to crush through. The shows like Dr Oz and Fit Club would have no guest. Why is it that every guest on many shows that come on saying they have lost a mountain of weight when asked how they did it they give you a blanket answer...will power, hard work and exercise and they give you 1 or 2 recipes but no R E A L answer or regimen. The Government let's products that take away your appetite stay on the market when research has already proved that eating more often promotes weight loss not losing your desire to eat. Have you noticed that diet food cost more than regular food? I don't get it...you get only enough food to feed a toddler, no flavor but it cost more. I guess your paying for the ascetically beautiful color illustrations on the box. Ohhhh soooo pretttyyy... Kind of like how I don't get that organic food is food that uses no pesticides, injected dyes, chemicals which would suggest there is less work put into this food but it cost twice as much as food that is filled with stuff that's suppose to kill ya. But that's another subject right there.
In a nut shell the Sum of my mass is always changing , subtracting, adding trying to reach that "Thin".
Thursday, July 29, 2010
My definition of 30 something sum'thin...
Since I'm new to this blogging thing I want to clear up any ambiguity regarding my title page. Now follow along (smile) ...Let's start off by making it clear that I am "ageless"...yes that's what I said and how I said it. Age- less. As the years ebb on I stay the same age range.-lol Some folks say their 21 forever...nahhhh...there are things (including people) I did, things I said, things and events I participated in that if I knew then (in my 20's) what I know now I sure as heck would have avoided. Wanting to still belong to the age groups prior to 21 is just unrealistic and reveals I deep yearning to hold on to the Peter Pan syndrome. Granted it is comforting to be coddled like a baby...given a bottle, having oil rubbed on ya. Problem with infant years is can't avoid the mess. And sure the teens were great ...given a bottle ( hiccup), having oil rubbed on ya ...Problem here was the peer pressure, pimples and parents.
Let's get out of Never Never-mind Land... now in the 20's you can be given the bottle , in fact, you buy it ya durn self w/out hanging out side the package store and waiting for some sucker to go in for you and hope he's not going to take your joy juice with him. About that oil rubbing...well ya know...nuff said on that subject. Let's just say no parents to object if done correctly
We have arrived at the summit...the 40's! You look great. May have lost that weight and if not ...you don't give a flying fig! You buy fashions you love not specifically what's in the fashion magazines. Looks good to me...if not WTF!!! Your motto as it relates to the bottle is " it's Happy Hour every hour somewhere in the world and if not...who gives a damn"!!! This is the ultimate time for a women Butttttttt and yes there is a butt and it's not that thing I sit on...Mamma didn't bless me wid something big to shake...w e l l stuff shakes but it ain't da booty....but I digress ...The only problem with the 40's is Perception. Everybody thinks you're getting old not just older.Kids think 40's "is one foot in the grave age". Hollywood thinks you can't play Sexy leading lady roles unless your playing a cougar. And if your single in your 40's ...sheesh that's the damn kiss of death to men. They think we are all going through "the change". Something new to blame our independence and opinions on ( use to be PMS).
Hope I painted a clearer picture as to why I am and will always be 30 something. Consider this concept in algebra..."x" is a variable in this case "something" = "X". So I'm not stretching the truth just allowing room for growth. I CAN and I am 30 something 4EVER even when you think I am 40 ish!!!! And if you don't agree...As Flo on Mel's Diner would say...Kiss my Grits!!!!
Let's get out of Never Never-mind Land... now in the 20's you can be given the bottle , in fact, you buy it ya durn self w/out hanging out side the package store and waiting for some sucker to go in for you and hope he's not going to take your joy juice with him. About that oil rubbing...well ya know...nuff said on that subject. Let's just say no parents to object if done correctly
We have arrived at the summit...the 40's! You look great. May have lost that weight and if not ...you don't give a flying fig! You buy fashions you love not specifically what's in the fashion magazines. Looks good to me...if not WTF!!! Your motto as it relates to the bottle is " it's Happy Hour every hour somewhere in the world and if not...who gives a damn"!!! This is the ultimate time for a women Butttttttt and yes there is a butt and it's not that thing I sit on...Mamma didn't bless me wid something big to shake...w e l l stuff shakes but it ain't da booty....but I digress ...The only problem with the 40's is Perception. Everybody thinks you're getting old not just older.Kids think 40's "is one foot in the grave age". Hollywood thinks you can't play Sexy leading lady roles unless your playing a cougar. And if your single in your 40's ...sheesh that's the damn kiss of death to men. They think we are all going through "the change". Something new to blame our independence and opinions on ( use to be PMS).
Hope I painted a clearer picture as to why I am and will always be 30 something. Consider this concept in algebra..."x" is a variable in this case "something" = "X". So I'm not stretching the truth just allowing room for growth. I CAN and I am 30 something 4EVER even when you think I am 40 ish!!!! And if you don't agree...As Flo on Mel's Diner would say...Kiss my Grits!!!!
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