a man she just met who she believes we have much in common.She is 27 he is 42.
She suggested to the guy that he meet me...he laughed.
My brother married last year...she is real "kewl people". She was 26 he was 47
at the time. My brothers daughter from a previous relationship is 24. Brother dear
is like the absent minded professor. He can remember complicated formulas but
can't recall where he put his keys 5 minutes ago or if he locked the front door.
He is a physicist...helped build some Atom Blaster thingy in Geneva. I guess the
big head 4got his age but the little head remembered her age,
I met a nice 'ole boy" on the train a few weeks ago. He is 66. Very social and
outgoing. Apparently there was a standing joke on the train among some of the
passengers cause every time folks would walk by us when were were talking they
would say to him.."High 5" . Me being the curious kitty that I am had to make
inquires about this action. A wonderfully delightful retired couple that was
doing the United States cross country by rail ( what ever floats your boat) sat near me in
the lounge car so I broached the subject to them. They explained that 'old boy
had been married 4 times and was looking for wife number 5 so since his obvious
attraction towards me everyone was High 5'in him assuming I might be the next
wifey. (quiet as it's kept 'ole boy lost me when he mentioned he he doesn't fly
anymore. Not in 12 yrs.) I need a man that has a passion for travel and not just
by rail which limits one to just the United States. Plus one other little thing
put him out of my mind when he mentioned prenuptial agreement for his next marriage. N E X
T!!!
Now look...I'm a thoroughly Modern Milly. I put little restrictions or rules on little these days ( thus the joy's of being 30somthing). I have only one rule regarding age and that is "Jr" has to be older than my daughter. I have no
objections to May/December relationships. If 2 people have many common interest
and make each other smile ( and not just the younger person smiling at the
prospect of financial gain) then go for it.
At first I resented the label Cougar but when one considers being referred to
as a Cougar aka Puma, or Panther ( I like the latter...I see myself walking the
catwalk like Halle Berry did in all that leather and boots in Cat Women...very
empowering!) Movie bombed but her outfit was a hit. Besides diamond nails like hers would mean
less trips to the salon. Wikipedia defines the characteristics of a cougar as "a
capable stalk and ambush predator...pursues a wide variety of
prey...territorial" This doesn't sound too bad to me...sounds like one bad mamma
jamma to me. Someone in charge and aware and less likely to be manipulated.
Consider the alternative; "Dog" we have been labeling men that for years. Now
lets see...how do we describe most dogs....easily led, they are loyal to who
ever feeds them and they poop where they sleep...sound like anyone you know?
hmmmm...
The reality of the situation is this...men in their 40's start having their mid
life crisis(we get hot flashes they start acquiring hot flashy things)...they buy sports cars or motor cycles, get hair plugs and start hunting for 20 something "sex kittens". During their period the 40 something
male and the 20 something female are finally equal in mentality. The women in my age
group are left to chill and relax with the 'old boys who when you mention going
out they say..." I've done all that hang'n out when I was younger...there's
nothing out there now...let's just stay in and watch a movie. What's up with
that ? I don't see the logic in that mindset... just because you used to go to
concerts, art galleries, jazz festivals, fine restaurants does that mean each
repeated( which in itself is not repeated cause time can not be repeated...last
years Kem concert will never be the same as this years Kem concert) experience
won't be a "new experience"? Besides if you were not with me at that time those
experiences don't count. But you can sit and watch goo-gobs of March Madness ball
and enjoy each game as if it's the first time you ever saw them play... BORING..
to me anyway...for some women they like to chill. The flip side to the 'ole boy being the
under age 35 guys,,,yummy but not always ready for what your ready for or to ready for other things. There
are 2 questions I always get out of the way when I meet a "Jr". 1) A .Do you have
kids ? B. Do you want more? If he doesn't have any....NEXT....don't want to run
the risk of us getting close then he regrets not having children. If he wants
more...NEXT...I want nothing in my life that restricts my hopping on a plane or leaving when I want to disappear for a weekend. This is why I don't have a
dog...gotta find someone to take care of them in your absence...see a cat will
take care of itself if I go away. Oh I did say I ask 2 questions but ahhhh can't
discuss that one at this time
I'm caught in a conundrum...I'm either gingerly lifting a man who has one foot
in a cradle or grabbing a man with one foot in the grave. "Jr" provides action,
adventure and stamina while I enjoy "Pops" for stimulating conversation,
security and that wise inner strength that only an older man can provide. Now at some point the 40 something man becomes available again ( usually w/in 1-5 yrs from breakdown) problem is by this time the 20 something chicky has left him bitter, distrustful and in many cases financially strapped. Until I
can find 1 man who is age appropriate (whatever that is), exciting,witty,
imaginative, mentally and emotionally stable I will just keep on hand my pampers
and my depends. Always ready to land on my feet. MEOWWW...
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